I could tell you 99 positive things about you, and 1 negative and you would focus on that one negative! Why is this so common? We put a much greater value on negatives than we do positives because our brains consider negatives as risks and danger that may kill us, even though we know that most things wont! This is our brains acting in a primal capacity as they did when cavemen and women roamed the earth surveying everything they did and come up against as a matter of life or death. Here I raise how negatives do benefit us, and how we can look to re-address the balance of a negative bias that we hold naturally within us. If you would like to book an appointment then please get in contact through direct messenger or contact 07376 910176 / info@dynamictherapy.club. www.dynamictherapy.club #positive #thinkpositive #mindset #counselling #therapy #essexcounselling #negativethoughts #anxiety #depression #positivity

We overcome urges temptation & impulse by binding ourselves in the future. In Greek Mythology & the business world this is very commonly known as a Ulysses pact. I explain the story behind the Ulysses pact and how this is applied in every day life. This can be used to overcome urges & temptation or to bind yourself to commitments.

Are we really writing this year off already as "the year of the pandemic"? Is that all it is? We still have a quarter of a year to go to make decisions and set foundations for something more positive. So much can be done in 12 weeks! there is no need to wait until 2021 to make resolutions and begin improving your life. Today is as good a day as January 1st to make a change. So work out what you want, why you want it? and realise that with that you can bear any "how?". The year does not end in August, let this year be reflected on as "2020 the year of the pandemic and the year that I started...." and make the pandemic seem insignificant to the amazing things you are capable of achieving.

How many times have you told yourself not to do something and then it happens. Maybe it’s “don’t mess this up”, “don’t show your nervous”, “don’t lose it with them” and what happens - you go and do exactly what you were trying to avoid. Check out this short video as to why this happens, and what you can do to get to where you want to get to. This is a quick therapy tip from Rochford based Counsellor Adam Coombes at Dynamic Therapy Club. Check out the website to find out more or make a booking for coaching or counselling: www.dynamictherapy.club

Dealing with emotions - pushing them down, denying them & "just keeping busy" will only serve the moment. As time goes on, if we do not give ourselves the opportunity to feel whatever is going on for us, then these feelings can become toxic - presenting a risk to our moods, behaviours, mental & physical health. Unprocessed emotions will still try to escape from us - They are trapped after all! Negative stored emotions can come out in all sorts of ways such as irritability, anxiety, depression, paranoia, stress, binging, self abuse through substance & behavioural "coping" rituals (developing addiction) and paranoia to name but a few. When we give ourselves the space and permission to feel, we do so consciously. It is a way of acknowleding that we are human to feel these things and deserve the time to process them. We can process things alone or in the company of a loved one that we trust or a therapist. It is time to stop denying our own feelings and emotions, to park the ego & childhood messages of "keep a stiff upper lip" & "big boys dont cry". You really have to feel it to heal it! Reach out & start addressing those things that have happened and are still hurting you. You've got this! Adam www.dynamictherapy.club info@dynamictherapy.club 07376 910176

This is the final video in the 3 part series on "Change". The cycle of change is a model that sets out the expected steps to go through to make positive change sustainable. Through mapping where an individual is on the cycle of change we can determine if they are freely progressing towards change or potentially stuck. Within this video I break down what each step means and provide principles to consider to make change achievable and sustainable.

It is easy to take for granted the amount of change we have been through and what we have learned from it to feel disempowered when it comes to change. We all change every day and demonstrate our ability in change without realising. With slight twists on the things we tell ourselves to believing in our experience and competence we can feel more comfortable through change. Reference TedX Talks: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6o1XGKhwTYM&t=5s I even threw in a lyric from Public Enemy at the end there from "Harder than you think"!

What is the fear of change? and how to break down your changes into small manageable steps. We face every day of our lives yet we still hold a fear for it. We can also see fear as an enemy as opposed to a supporter. Learn the functions of fear and how we can begin to address change as a less fearful feat.

Take stock of how you use your time and where you are using it. Are you rushing through life achieving things for others without considering your own wants or needs? If the rat race of life has consumed you, then its time to make a change to the way you manage your life. Work on prioritising you more and be compassionate to your own needs. Ask yourself three questions - How am I feeling? What do I want? What do I need?